On to some different news - I have heard some great feedback from my very first post. Most positive, some confused on why I needed to be so honest, and some negatives. I want to thank everyone for any and all the feedback I am receiving, and I want to explain the reason for the brutal honesty about myself. The plan I have set out for my life is about positive change. What this means is that I also have to be very honest with myself and others on how I got to where I am now. Since I swept my issues and problems under the rug for so long, now is the only time I have to start facing them head on. If not now, how long will they be under that damn rug? So that being said, it would not be fair to me, or you, if I was not brutally honest.
To close this blog, I want to share an article that I read last week off of positivelypositive.com about why it doesn't matter what people think. This article helped me realize that the people I want in my life will always be supportive, honest, and caring about all things me. I am taking back control of my life, and it feels good! This is one of my favorite websites, I read it every morning. You should check it out!
Why It Doesn’t Matter What People Think
By: Stephenie Zamora
One
of the hardest aspects of making positive changes in your life is
dealing with other people. Mainly your family, friends, and colleagues
who believe that, because they’re in your life, they have a say in what
you do and that their opinion should always be considered.
But when it comes to YOU and YOUR life, YOU are the only person whose opinion matters.
If you make the choice to create positive changes, FOR YOURSELF, that is all that matters. You don’t need anyone’s approval, validation, or support, and most of the time, you really should avoid it.
Top 3 Reasons Why You Are the Only One that Matters
1. Sometimes People Respond from a Place of Fear
Most
people are uncomfortable with change, so when you mix things up,
they’re not likely to be your biggest supporter. They’re not used to
your new style, interests, or habits, and this is disruptive or
uncomfortable to them. From this place of fear, they tend to nudge you back to THEIR comfort zone.
Maybe
your friends are playfully pressuring you to eat crappy food or have a
drink, despite the fact that you’ve decided to shift to a healthier
lifestyle. Maybe your significant other doesn’t like that fact that you
joined a book club because he or she is insecure about you meeting new
people. Maybe your family gives you a hard time about the job you took
in another state because it means that they have to learn to deal with
distance in your relationship.
It’s selfish and does not have your best interests in mind. Be cautious of fear-based input.
2. Sometimes People just Don’t Get It, and They Don’t Get You
If
you’ve made the decision to make positive shifts and someone in your
life is not supportive or is totally against the idea, they likely
aren’t someone who cares about YOUR needs or really gets you.
When
people in your life get you, they’ll be able to see your side, support
you, and will also cheer you on! These are the people that check in with
you on your progress, find ways to motivate you, and care if you reach
your goals.
People that aren’t supportive and don’t get you don’t get to have a say in what you do. Ever.
3. This Is your Life
Your
body, your career, your time, and your happiness are at stake. It’s
important to be considerate of other people in your life, but it comes down to what you want and what you need to be happy and healthy. The best way you can serve other people is to take care of yourself first.
When
it comes to choices and change, always do a gut check. What do YOU want
to do? What would make YOU feel joy, passion, healthy, or on the right
path? Do that. No other opinions needed.
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